By the time I separated in October 2012, I was a couple of years into the grand mid-life transformation that brought a dramatically different version of myself than anyone had every really known. The heart of who I was—loud, brash, smart, funny, caring, independent, dogged—had always been there, but I worked to integrate those traits into a thriving, viable version of the Me who'd always seemed to be trapped inside the fat, unhappy girl I'd been for far too long.
Toward the end of my marriage, I'd already started to live parts of my life outside of that relationship. I traveled a bit. I was writing again. I'd lost 115 pounds.
Ending a twenty-year relationship was difficult. We were unraveling a lifetime of togetherness while trying to co-parent two fantastic children. Wife and Mother was now Divorced Mom. More importantly, Stephanie and DH was now just Stephanie. The lessons that had come before my separation, the hard work to learn who I was and what I wanted from myself and the people who could impact my life, were finally going to be tested.
via divorcedmoms.com
Here's the link to a new piece I did for DivorcedMoms.com. They're things I think every woman should do, but especially if you're newly single.
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